Say "You're Welcome" And Really Mean It

Last week's blog got me to wondering about the other side of "Thank you" - that is "You're Welcome."  If the way to receive a gift or compliment is the say "thank you" and shut up, then what is our reaction with someone says "thank you" to us?

So I tried to pay attention.  My observation has been that I, and others, often deflect someone's word of thanks with something like, "Don't mention it." or "No problem." or "It was nothing."

Why is it so hard for some of us to simply say "You're welcome." without qualifying or deflecting?  It seems to me to do otherwise not only disregards the expression of thanks, but also dismisses the value of   the gift we have to offer.

"Thank you" and "You're welcome" are among the first phrases we learn in polite, respectful discourse in any language.  It's how we teach children to give and receive.  Graciously giving and receiving are at the core of all human relationships.  

So, in addition to saying, "Thank you" and shutting up; also try saying "You're welcome." and really meaning it.   We may be surprised as how genuine and rewarding these simple exchanges in our relationships with others can be.